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I’m not lonely. Alone and loneliness are two various things. This morning I met my good friend A. (who I wrote about for an article I printed in Good Housekeeping journal) for espresso and we shot the breeze. Sitting exterior within the morning air with a good friend earlier than the solar began beating down was a pleasant method to begin the day.
After which we every went our separate methods; A. again to her household and me again to my condo and to my rescue canine Shelby, to recharge my batteries, to jot down, and work on my psychological well being enterprise. That’s my thought of a fairly good day.
I’ve wonderful buddies. I’ve social employee buddies from after I used to work at my job in Queens — the job that went south after I tried suicide in 2014. These buddies knew me at my darkest and I don’t should put any fronts up for them. They settle for me for who I’m and love me unconditionally. All of us meet for dinner about as soon as a month in Queens, close to our outdated workplace (the workplace moved areas about 5 years in the past) and we often have a good time.
Talking of unconditional love, I’ve to say my brother. He’s my finest good friend, staunchest supporter, and largest cheerleader. I don’t know the place I’d be with out him. It’s nice to lastly have a relationship with him as an equal, not as his sick sister. He lives about half-hour away, and whereas we could not see one another as usually as we’d like (I’m working six days per week proper now), we regularly verify in with one another with calls and/or texts.
I’ve my writing buddies. Writers are a group. Proper now I’m not in a category or workshop. There’s a workshop I’d like to take but it surely conflicts with one in every of my late nights at work. I’m beginning to freelance which implies the final 15 years of writing, taking part in workshops—giving and receiving suggestions—submissions, acceptances, and rejections, largely rejections, have begun to repay. Thanks to all my instructors, classmates, and everybody who has given me suggestions and encouragement alongside the best way. Writers are actually a group.
I’ve my entrepreneurial buddies. In 2018, after I had the concept for my enterprise, I took a starting 60-hour entrepreneur class. I loved the category and my classmates. After the category ended, a gaggle of us met commonly for help, to change concepts, accountability, and to have enjoyable whereas doing the entire above. In 2021, I signed up for What If, a course run by VC Stephen Hayes who handled bipolar dysfunction and habit. He developed What If as an 8-week behavioral healthcare startup accelerator program. I used to be on the explorer monitor, so I didn’t get to pitch my enterprise, however as soon as I’ve some income, I can return as a builder. All of the cohorts are on the identical Slack channel, so all of us keep in contact and up to date with what one another is doing. Concurrently, I grew to become part of Ossining Innovates (OI), a extra native accelerator program for entrepreneurs that helped me pivot and form BWellBStrong into the enterprise mannequin it’s immediately. OI was a small program with solely 9 individuals so all of us obtained to know one another properly and I’m nonetheless in contact with a few of my classmates immediately.
After which I’ve a number of buddies I can’t categorize as coming from wherever specifically and prolonged household reminiscent of cousins who stay in varied components of the nation, reminiscent of Florida and Louisiana.
So sure, I stay alone, however I’m removed from lonely. I’ve an lively social life with family and friends and it’s truly work to strike what I contemplate a super stability between alone time and social time.
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